On Right and Wrong

A formidable topic my buddy Mike and I were discussing recently centered around the definition of right and wrong. A good starting point for this is thinking about the common definitions of moral values. Morals in general revolve around a common set of sociological norms. Some of these may include but are not limited to: murder, sexual crimes, cheating, and fraud. The list goes on. But society and the individuals of that society have the same general opinion on these actions as being morally incorrect.
The real meat and potatoes of this discussion isn't so much society's definition of these norms but rather the integrity of their merit. What makes these norms so "right"? Although I agree with the majority of these predefined morals I find myself questioning their rightness. The only true way it seems to properly hold a set of morals is to experience them first hand. Now it may seem silly to reinvent the wheel when it comes to say, cheating on another individual. It is important to note though that just because it doesn't work 99 percent of the time doesn't mean that it isn't the right thing to do.
Now don't think that I intend to give merit to cheating. But in the event someone is about to and/or is currently in the process of cheating the thought process or driving force in that person's mind is "correct". It is correct in the sense that it is their best view of the orientation of the universe and their position in that universe. It is easy to see that their understanding of what is real is inherently flawed. This flaw cannot be avoided however. Take for instance the child who puts his hand on a hotplate. His lack of understanding drove him to experience the touch of that plate. And while it may be construed as stupid or unintelligent, the experience was required for that individual to understand. The same can be said about cheating or any other morals.
So as far as determining the relative values of different morals, it is important to conceptualize the understanding of an individual. Their lack of knowledge must be obtained by experience. And while many are quick to point out the error in another's way, it is probably more important to realize the whole of the situation. No matter how incredulous another's actions may be, they are deep in a process of better understanding the universe around them. And while it may seem that someone else is weaker or stronger than yourself it can be safely said that the both of you are interested in the same thing: understanding the truth.
There are many different paths to understanding. So it does not make much sense to criticize the actions or experiences of another.